Happiness, life satisfaction, fulfillment and meaning in life


Can science tell us anything about the meaning of life, or how to find happiness? There's been a surge of interest recently among some research psychologists in "positive psychology" - not just finding out what's wrong with people but what's right with them. They've been investigating questions like:

  • What are the characteristics of life satisfaction, and what leads to it?
  • Is happiness just a string of pleasurable events, or is there something deeper?
  • What kinds of happiness are there, and how do we get them?
  • Does tapping into personal strengths and virtues lead to greater engagement in one's activities?
  • How can we find more meaning in life, in the work we do, or in the things we do for enjoyment?
We'll also talk about relationships, community, attitudes and values, and a whole range of other things. Join the conversation and let us know what you think too.





Gratitude leads to psychological and physical well-being

by Dr. Steve Wright

Gratitude is something that psychologists have started studying in a scientific way recently, thousands of years after its importance was recognized by philosophers, religious thinkers, and spiritual teachers. It turns out gratitude is strongly associated with quite a few aspects of psychological and physical well-being. According to research, grateful people have more positive emotion, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism, pleasant feelings, empathy, generosity, and less depression and stress. But how do psychology researchers know that’s not just because being a happy person causes gratitude? Or because having a good life causes both happiness and gratitude?

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others”

-Cicero

One way to find out is by doing an experiment. You get a group of people to do a “gratitude intervention” (keeping a gratitude journal or gratitude lists, or some other activity that encourages gratitude) and see how it affects other factors. Even better if you have another group as a comparison where everybody is doing some similar activity that doesn’t necessarily encourage gratitude.

Robert Emmons and Mike McCullough are two leading researchers on this topic. Here are some of their results:

In one experiment, the group of people who kept weekly gratitude journals had significantly better results on a range of psychological and physical well-being measures than the people in either of two comparison groups. The gratitude journal people exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week than the other two groups (who recorded hassles in one group or neutral life events in the other).

Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal, and health-based) over a two-month period compared to participants in the other experimental groups.

In another study using daily self-guided exercises with young adults, the participants in the gratitude intervention group reported higher levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy than the other two groups (who focused on hassles, or on how they thought they were better off than others). Also, the participants in the gratitude intervention group were more likely to report having helped someone with a personal problem or having offered emotional support to someone than those in the other two comparison groups.

In a third study, this time of adults with neuromuscular disease, a 21-day gratitude intervention resulted in better sleep duration and sleep quality, greater amounts of high energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, and more optimistic ratings of one’s life, relative to a comparison group.

The most robust effect across all three studies was the impact on people’s positive moods.

All the participants were randomly assigned to groups. So the gratitude interventions led to the improvements in psychological and physical well-being, not the other way around.

Martin Seligman, father of the modern “positive psychology” movement, recommends trying out the intervention, particularly for those who score in the lower half on the McCullough & Emmons “Gratitude Survey” or Ed Diener’s “Satisfaction with Life Scale.” In his best-selling book Authentic Happiness, Seligman describes it as follows:

Set aside five free minutes each night for the next two weeks, preferably right before brushing your teeth for bed. Prepare a pad with one page for each of the next fourteen days. The first night, take the Satisfaction with Life Scale (page 63) and the General Happiness Scale (page 46) once again and score them. Then think back over the previous twenty-four hours and write down, on separate lines, up to five things in your life you are grateful or thankful for. Common examples include “waking up this morning,” “the generosity of friends,” “God for giving me determination,” “wonderful parents,” “robust good health,” and “the Rolling Stones” (or some other artistic inspiration). Repeat the Life Satisfaction and General Happiness Scales on the final night, two weeks after you start, and compare your scores to the first night’s scores. If this worked for you, incorporate it into your nightly routine.

So here’s our special offer: Take our free two-week trial according to the description immediately above. If you don’t feel more alert, more enthusiastic, more determined, more attentive, more energetic, more optimistic, more happiness, and more satisfied with life; and if you’re not more helpful and supportive; we’ll give you double your money back!

References:

Emmons, R.A., & McCullough, M.E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: Experimental studies of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84, 377-389.

Seligman, M.E.P. (2002). Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment. New York: Free Press. p. 75. Hardcover: ISBN 0-7432-2297-0; Paperback (2004): ISBN 0-7432-2298-9.


 
Written by Dr. Steve Wright on September 10th, 2008

“In the zone”: enjoyment, creativity, and the nine elements of “flow”

by Dr. Steve Wright

Skill. Finesse. Efficiency of movement. There is speed and power. All of his resources are brought to bear in this challenge; he is focused. But he is relaxed, and there is a seeming effortlessness in execution. He is “in the zone.” He gives no thought to his many years of preparation that led to this moment of excellence. He’s not self-consciously examining his actions. His awareness is devoted to the game. He is not distracted by extraneous thoughts. He is absorbed in the here and now. Mind and body are in harmony. Thought and action are one. Creativity, ingenuity, mastery, and strength naturally emerge. He moves with grace; time seems to slow and now we zoom in on his hand moving swiftly through the air with guileless confidence – and then the sound of impact!

Who knew chess could be this exciting!!

Okay, so the description above sounds more like it’s talking about an active, physical sport.* With small changes it could also apply to a wide variety of activities where people are so involved in what they’re doing that they become fully engrossed in it.

A well-known research psychologist has spent most of his life studying this state, which he calls “flow.” His name is Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi (he explains facetiously that it’s pronounced “chicks send me high”), former chair of the department of psychology at the University of Chicago. He says flow is engagement with what you’re doing, wanting to continue in the activity for its own sake, and “the way people describe their state of mind when consciousness is harmoniously ordered.” A person can be involved in sports, art, games, hobbies, work…. Almost anything active can potentially lead to it, but not normally something passive like watching TV.

Flow can happen when you’re “really into” what you’re doing. It also has positive benefits. When you’re in a flow state, you’re not normally thinking “I’m happy doing this” or “I love this,” because you’re too focused on the activity. Afterward, though, you might think something like: “That was fun.”

In fact, Csikszentmihalyi came upon the concept of flow as a result of researching the question “What is enjoyment?” He started by studying people who did activities for enjoyment even when they weren’t rewarded with money or fame. They were motivated by the quality of the experience they had while they were engaged in the activity. This optimal experience didn’t come when they were relaxing, or taking drugs or alcohol, or consuming luxuries. Instead, it often consisted of something difficult, risky, or even painful. It usually stretched the person’s capacity, provided a challenge to his or her capabilities, and involved some discovery or novelty.

Nine elements of flow

Csikszentmihalyi identified nine elements of flow that he saw repeatedly in his research:

1. There are clear goals every step of the way. In many everyday situations, there are contradictory demands and it’s sometimes quite unclear what should occupy our attention. But in a flow experience, you have a clear purpose and a good grasp of what to do next.

2. There is immediate feedback to one’s actions. When you’re in flow, you know how well you’re doing.

3. There is a balance between challenges and skills. If a challenge is too demanding compared to your skill level, you get frustrated. If it’s too easy, you get bored. In a flow experience, there is a pretty good match between your abilities and the demands of the situation. You feel engaged by the challenge, but not overwhelmed.

4. Action and awareness are merged. People are often thinking about something that happened – or might happen – in another time or place. But in flow, you’re concentrated on what you’re doing.

5. Distractions are excluded from consciousness. Because you’re absorbed in the activity, you’re only aware of what’s relevant to the task at hand, and you don’t think about unrelated things. By being focused on the activity, unease that can cause anxiety and depression is set aside.

6. There is no worry of failure. In a state of flow, you’re too involved to be concerned about failing. You just don’t think about failure. You know what has to be done and you just do it.

7. Self-consciousness disappears. People often spend a lot of mental energy monitoring how they appear to others. In a flow state, you’re too involved in the activity to care about protecting your ego. You might even feel connected to something larger than yourself. Paradoxically, the experience of letting go of the self can strengthen it.

8. The sense of time becomes distorted. Time flies when you’re really engaged. On the other hand, time may seem to slow down at the moment of executing some action for which you’ve trained and developed a high degree of skill.

9. The activity becomes “autotelic” (an end in itself, done for it’s own sake). Some activities are done for their own sake, for the enjoyment an experience provides, like most art, music, or sports. Other activities, which are done for some future purpose or goal – like things you have to do as part of your job – may only be a means to an end. But some of these goal-oriented activities can also become ends in themselves, and enjoyed for their own sake. Csikszentmihalyi concludes by saying that “in many ways, the secret to a happy life is to learn to get flow from as many of the things we have to do as possible.”

Think about things you’ve done that had some of these characteristics. Then do more of those kinds of things!

Enrich your life by making a commitment and a concrete plan to put more flow – an optimal experience of engagement – in your work, in your leisure (cut down on the passive stuff!), and ultimately in your life.

Recommended books:

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly (1990). Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. New York: Harper Perennial.

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly (1996). Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention. New York: Harper Collins.

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly (1998). Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement With Everyday Life. New York: Basic Books. (a how-to book with practical applications)

*No, I’m not claiming chess is a sport. But if it were, that would make me captain of the varsity team and MVP all three years — a jock!

 
Written by Dr. Steve Wright on September 5th, 2008

First step: What do you really want?

by Dr. Steve Wright

…then goals and commitment.

Since this is my first post, I thought I would talk about the topic of taking a first step. Some ideas that came to mind were about goals and commitment.

Concrete goals help you focus. They take a vague idea and make it more specific. They clarify what you need to do, and they actually help you get it done. People who make clear goals, with a time frame for getting them done and a way to gauge performance, are more successful.

According to psychological research,* goals help you in at least four ways:

1. Goals help you pay attention to, and learn, what you need to know to accomplish them.

2. People with goals make more effort, both physically and mentally.

3. Goals help you stick with a task, giving you more persistence in pursuing the accomplishment.

4. Goals help you use relevant knowledge and strategies.

Goals also help you commit. If you say you’re going to do something, you’re more likely to do it. If you make a decision to accomplish your goal (or each specific step needed for a more complex goal) by a certain date, there will be psychological forces helping you to do it.

Obviously, the reverse is true: commitment helps accomplish goals, especially challenging ones.

Sometimes you have to take a risk and make the commitment even if there’s no guarantee you’ll be able to accomplish exactly what you’re setting out to do. Olympic divers need to put themselves in the right frame of mind the moment they jump, but if they wait too long on the board over-thinking it, they’re more likely to have a poor dive. The preparation they needed happened before they even climbed up the diving board, during the many hours of training leading up to the execution of the dive. When it’s time to dive, take the leap.

But before goals and commitment you have to decide something: What do you really want?

This may not be as easy as you think. Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert points out that we’re actually pretty bad predictors of what’s going to make us happy. He wrote a best-selling book about it called Stumbling on Happiness. More on that later.

Sometimes you know exactly what you want and you can just pursue it, with whatever goals and commitment are appropriate. Other times, especially when it comes to big things, it’s not always completely clear. When the question “What do you really want?” is expanded in scope to mean “What do you really want in your work or career?” or “What do you really want in life?” – then a lot of people aren’t completely sure. Often they haven’t really thought it through very carefully. Sometimes they were just going after things they thought they wanted. In many cases they’re not very happy with some aspect of their work or life.

When it comes to their work, some people say “Just give me a paycheck.” Those people are not as happy in their work life as people who find some inherent value or meaning in what they do. Even people who have what many would consider a mundane and boring job, like an assembly line worker, can be satisfied with their work if they feel it has intrinsic value. In one study I ran across, some assembly line workers reported that they took pride in their role as creators of a quality product, they said they liked their jobs, and their scores on standard measures agreed.

One thing that contributes a lot to life satisfaction is engaging in activities that make use of your personal strengths. One prominent psychologist spent three years studying this, and working with a colleague (an even more well-known researcher and past president of the APA), wrote an important book which features a list of personal strengths. Take a look at that list and ask yourself how much you’re using your strengths in your life, in your work, and in your leisure activities. Are there changes you could make to spend more time doing the things you find rewarding and valuable?

I’ll be writing a lot more on these and related topics. Please subscribe and check back with me.

I asked myself the question: “What do I really want…out of this web site?” My answer was that I wanted to create as much value as possible for my readers. I want to share what I think and what other psychologists think about how to increase your happiness, life satisfaction, and meaning in life. Some of it will be straight out of research studies, and other ideas will be informed and influenced by them. Either way there will be some science behind the advice. Think of it as “Dear Abby 2.0.”

*If you want to take a look at a review of the academic literature on goals, there is a good one entitled “Building a Practically Useful Theory of Goal Setting and Task Motivation” (pdf format) that was published in American Psychologist in 2002. It’s not light reading, but a lot of scientific findings are presented on this topic. A side benefit is that even in the first couple pages you can see how far psychology theory has come in the last 50 years since the dark days of psychologists’ thinking being almost universally conditioned by the ubiquitous conceptual assumptions of behaviorism, even on questions where it didn’t make much sense.

 
Written by Dr. Steve Wright on September 2nd, 2008

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